So! Finished my first self-help book. ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ by Louise L. Hay. It has lead me through steps to start making a change. I read one chapter a night, and worked through the exercises. I’ll admit it was quite the emotional roller coaster, overwhelming at times, but it guided me. Now the real work begins, I’ve got to put it to practice. Bites finger nails, what do I do now?!
Perhaps I shall gather more self-help books, it puts the self-help book in the bucket. This is not the answer. It has piqued interest to delve further and learn more about mind set, and positive change. Which I am taking as a positive. Tick.
One of the ideas I have been working on since finishing the book is ‘Appreciate all that you do.’ A simple concept. It can change a path of thinking, creating a positive outlook on where you are, at present. A way to appreciate the right now. Begin looking at yourself though a place of love and acceptance, and stop beating yourself up about the things you have not done or achieved yet.
Already I feel the benefits, a lightness in heart and spirit has crept in. I had not been giving myself credit for the good things that I do for myself already. What I am going to do now, is focus a little more on these elements and try to expand and nourish them further. Fluff the feathers for a more harmonious relationship with myself.
As a start, I looked back at my life and acknowledged something larger I had done to change, and then something smaller that I currently do. I also decided to add something new to my daily routine that made me feel a little more joyful, gaining positive energy to keep moving forward.
My larger thing. Two years ago I had reached 10 years at my job. I organized a meeting with my boss, and asked for recognition of this milestone. What he asked for in return for my request, hit a nerve. He asked that I be more approachable in the workplace, and shared how he found it difficult to ask me about tricky tasks or queries. I took it on the chin, it was true. I was a very stressed lady in the office, I would become overwhelmed, defensive and prickly. It needed to change, for my own well-being. I took up Yoga, I go on my lunch break every day now. Two years on,and it has changed my work environment completely, I am a better colleague, and my colleagues are better to me. From a girl who put herself the ‘I’m not a Yoga person’ box, I now work in a far more harmonious office environment, all because I changed and did something positive about the feedback I got.
My smaller thing. I get up a 5am 4 days a week. I am not a morning person. I am very, very slow in the morning. I need an hour. I can’t take coffee this early. I learnt a type of massage on a women’s health retreat I went on about a year ago. I call it ‘punch massage’. I don’t know the real name. I like my name. I basically do little punches up and down my body to get blood and lymph flow moving. It works a treat and wakes me up nicely. I usually spread the word about it too, not many warm to it. It works for me though, and it makes me smile that I do it. WIN.
New thing. I studied Make-Up for TV, Film and Theatre in my early 20’s. I love eyeshadow. I have sooo much make-up. I decided each week I am going to wear a different colour shadow. Makes me smile.
Give it a try, bask in the positive glow of your own doing. You’ll be surprised how well it works. Give yourself some credit, recognize what you do and bring a little joy into your heart, go forward with that energy.